Keep Calm and Home Study On

If you haven't already noticed, we've released a new eBook!  We call it The Home Study Manual, because it's all about how to have a successful adoption home study.  While this book was written from the perspective of a foster-adopt parent, we're sure it will be speak to all adoption families out there who have to prepare for a home study.

We asked our Instagram community to give us some tips on how to have a successful home study, and here's what they said.

"Have your safety requirements/ducks all in a row.  Prepare for some personal questions but just answer honestly and confidently.  RELAX.  I was so stressed for our homes tudy but it wasn't nearly as scary as I was anticipating." --Candace

"It helped me to remember that the little ones get all their hardest stuff aired out to the world on the very first day you meet them, so that made it easier when we had to talk about tougher stuff  Be honest.  They're social workers, they don't really get surprised by anything!" --Stephanie

"Just be honest.  Very personal questions will be asked, but know this is to determine if you are a good family for children in need.  They aren't looking for a spotless house, but a family friendly safe home.  Be prepared to answer questions on the spot.  Before your meeting just think over how you feel about infertility if that applies, trauma, discipline, family and spousal relationships.  Overall it was a very positive experience, but it is kind of funny to read back what the licenser has gathered from the information given."  --Kait

"It's a really intense interview about everything from childhood to your current life now.  How all of your experiences have shaped you and how you plan to do things the same or different and why.  Very personal questions will be asked.  They just want to know that you are in ahealthy place emotionally.  To ensure that you're thinking about how yourpast affects your future parenting." --Elizabeth

"Our agency prepped us for our upcoming home study by saying that aside from safety standards, the social workers want to know where your traumas and hurts may lay (say death of a parent, child of divorce, etc.) then assess that you've healed from them because relational safety is so vital for foster children.  I hadn't heard it said this way and it' made our time and date feel less about perfection and more about progress!" --Amber

What about you?  How have you prepared for your home study?  What's the best advice you've ever gotten?

And if you're in the middle of preparing your home, be sure to check out our shop and get your own copy of The Home Study Manual!