If you're anything like my family, then you make sure you carefully scrutinize what TV, movies, and books your kids are looking at and taking in. I remember the first time we watched ELF at Christmas and I had totally forgotten that Buddy was on the search for his REAL dad, not the Papa Elf that had adopted him. And I cringed because I knew what was coming. And sure enough, my oldest starts talking about REAL parents vs. FAKE parents, and, well, I won't even bore you with the very confusing conversation we ended up having.
Books are usually safe bets, because kids do crazy things whether they're adopted or not, and all kids love crazy stories about kids doing crazy things. So this one works for us. Here are our favorites.
Tell Me Again About the Night I was Born by Jamie Lee Curtis. This one is about a little girl who asks her mom and dad to tell her about the night she was born, when her parents flew on an airplane to pick her up from the hospital. It's specific to domestic infant adoption, but since we don't have those cute "when you were born" stories it's nice to squeeze in and let our kids know that they're not the only ones with atypical birth stories.
You Are Special by Max Lucado. Not an adoption book by any means, but a book for kids about how special they really are in God's eyes. I love this one and we've read it so much since we brought our kids homes. It's a good way to start that conversation about how we might be different but that doesn't mean we're not loved.
Just In Case You Ever Wonder by Max Lucado. Again, not an adoption book, but I love that the recurring theme is that the child is always, always loved. I'll admit that when the narrator talks about when his child was a baby, I totally change the words to fit our own story, but the message is still the same.
God Found Us You by Lisa Bergren. Such a cute story about a little fox asking about his mama fox about how he came to live with her. My favorite part about this story is how the foxes don't look like each other. Such a subtle affirmation that families look different in lots of ways.
I'll admit it's a short list, because most adoption books out there are about infant adoption, and lovingly put the birth mother on a pedestal for choosing to put up their child for adoption. Or their from an international adoption perspective, and depict the struggles of moving to a new country, learning a new language, or not looking anything like their family. While we're big on teaching our kids that every family looks different and those differences should be celebrated, it's hard when it seems like there is no media out there that accurately represents a foster-adopt family.
I would LOVE to hear from you! What are your kid book recommendations? What books are out there that I don't know about?
*links above are affiliate links, which means if you click on it and buy the book, Respite Redefined will receive a small profit which will go into creating more content for you to enjoy.
Caitlin is the founder and creator of Respite Redefined. She is a wife and mother of two daughters through adoption from foster care. Caitlin loves to read, to write, and to dream of the places she'll go and the sights she'll see and the new kids she'll one day meet.