Standing on the Outside

by Guest Writer Cassie Young

Watching Doug and Katie on the foster care journey has been an absolute pleasure. I'm thankful to be able to be involved and to see how God moves.

The first placement Katie and Doug had was hard. It was really hard to watch because I like to give solutions, advice, and help to my friends. Two young boys came and went, I think in a week, but in all honesty, it felt like a very long time. I can't imagine how it felt for my dear friends. We were able to help one night by watching their kids, but other than that there was a helplessness with that placement. I thank God there was another home for those boys that was a better fit for them. 


It felt like forever before Katie and Doug said yes again. When they did, to my surprise, it was to a teen mom. 


I believe the yes to that girl was a test of faithfulness. That girl went on to live in another home, but then we all received the joy of L & B.

L & B. 


I still remember the day I met them. I'm actually tearing up thinking about them.   A girl that had been moved several times throughout her time in the system.  A girl with a young son. 


When L & B came to live with Katie and Doug. I watched it change the Shannons and L & B. 
L & B were a great fit. They melded in almost seamlessly. That doesn't mean it was without difficulty, but family life is always messy. 


I fell in love with both of them very quickly. I hated hearing of the injustices done to her. I hated hearing some nitty gritty truths about how the system works. Especially not being her foster parents the only thing I could do to help L, was to love her.


Almost a year of the two of them living with the Shannons made a profound impact on my life and my family. I miss them. I didn't expect it to be hard on me. Not in the way it has been. When we would go over shortly after they left, my son asking where B was, it would break my heart. It affects the everyday simplicity of how you love your own children. Seeing hurting children only drives you to love your own the best you can. I saw how small things done with great love truly change the world of two young people in the foster care system. 


Katie and Doug will get another foster child. I will fall in love with him or her and my heart will break when they leave too. God has reasons these children will come and go in my own life.  
I used to be arrogant enough to believe that it was because God wanted me to make an impact on them. Its funny how He turns that around and before you know it, you're the one that is changed. The biggest L & B taught me was about how I can love. 


God is the details.  Even though I am not the one on the foster care journey, God has plans and children that will also shape and mold my heart.

Katie is a 30 year old mama to three children, ages twins that a 9 and a 4 year old. She has been married to her husband, Douglas for 10 years. They have been foster parents for 2 1/2 years.  This post was written by her friend, Cassie.